Nov. 7th, 2011
Today you had your normal routine procedure for the removal
of your stint in your gall bladder. I talked to you on the phone for a second
and then you got off because you were feeling nocuous. About two hours later I
received a phone call from B(sister) asking what happened to you, I didn’t know
so I text mom to find out you were back at the hospital throwing up and in
pain.
Nov. 8th, 2011
Today I called my mom to find out you were admitted to the
hospital with pancreatitis. I came to visit you after I got off at 12:30. I
spoke with mom mostly because you were either sleeping or in pain. The
doctors were filling you up with fluids and pain medication to calm your
pancreas down and they figured you would be better soon.
Nov. 9th, 2011
It was another day of fluids and medication. By all accounts
you should be on the mend. However mom mentioned you were starting to get
confused.
Nov. 10th, 2011
Mom said you were more and more confused. She said you were
acting very out of character and it was beginning to scare her.
Nov. 11th, 2011
Mom called me first thing in the morning. She had a very
hard night with you. You became increasingly aggravated and started to be very
hurtful towards her and also not making a lot of sense. The doctors assured her
that it was all the medication you had in your system. Mr. Bumblebee and I did our own
research and the pain medication you were on his infamous for making people
extremely aggressive and upset. Mom immediately brought this to doctor’s
attention and they started changing your pain medication. The doctors were also
worried about your lungs and that your breathing was getting labored. They were
also worried about your kidneys showing sign of kidney failure.
Nov. 12th,
2011
Mr. Bumblebee and I came to visit you. You were very out of it but
every now and again you would have a lucid moment. We talked to you about the
football game, UCLA vs UTAH. Aunt A and Uncle K came to visit and you
were joking a lot with Uncle K. You seemed to be getting a lot better as
the day progressed. That night you were a little aggravated again because you
were having a hard time sleeping. They gave you Benadryl around 9 pm and we
said goodnight. All your scores were
improving.
Nov. 13th, 2011
It was your anniversary. You were much more lucid and
stronger. You were getting up on your own almost and walking to and from the
bathroom. We watched a little football
with you and you ate a big lunch and even bigger dinner. Mr. Bumblebee and I left the
hospital thinking you would be coming home Wednesday or Thursday.
Nov. 14th, 2011
I went into work on Monday morning feeling so confident that
life was going be back to normal. I even thought you’d probably go to the game
on that Saturday but maybe we wouldn’t tailgate. By 11:30am, mom sent me one
text saying that you were in full liver failure. Mr. Bumblebee and I left our jobs
immediately and came to see you. You were much weaker than the day before. You
could barely talk and your breathing was much worse. Your kidneys were shutting
down again. We sat with you and they decided to try to move you to Kaiser
Sunset. You were thrilled about that. You asked
Mr. Bumblebee to make sure the lawn was
getting mowed. I don’t know if you meant it or if you were just out of it, but
it felt good to
Mr. Bumblebee that you felt confident enough in him to put him in
charge. While we were sitting there with you we started to notice a lot of changes
in you. It got very scary very fast. I called mom over to look at you and in a
second we had a ton of nurses moving you downstairs to the ICU. You were very
out of it but I could tell you were scared which made us scared. They took you
downstairs and we followed. Once you got downstairs they kicked us out of the
room for a while so they could prep you. We were all very scared and seeing you
in ICU didn’t help. Eventually they said you were gagging and acting like you
were throwing up. They were worried that you would inhale some vomit so they
decide to give you the breathing tube. We made them sedate you before they did
it because we knew how scared you would be. They were also giving you IV lines
in your thigh. By this time, Travis was on his way to the hospital, B (Sister) was on her way, and grandma, uncle K and aunt a were all on their way as
well. While we were waiting for them to finishing things we all sat around very
quiet. Mom completely lost it. She was so scared. B and I were upset too
but we did our best to stay strong in front of mom. Eventually it was
Mr. Bumblebee who
came to the rescue and held mom while she cried. Eventually the rest of your
entire family came. Everyone was there. But we could only let two people in ICU
at a time. I was very overbearing. If anyone was gonna be with you, I felt like
I wanted to be there with you. I didn’t want to give time to anyone else
because I wasn’t going to waste a minute with you.
Mr. Bumblebee and mom spent a lot of
time with you while B and I broke down in the hallway. I held B while we cried and shaked. I never went back into that waiting room. Eventually
they were going to try to move you straight to UCLA. However, a bed at Kaiser
Sunset became available first and so they moved you there first instead. The
paramedics came and started to pack you up (which took forever) but they were
very nice. We watched you go into the elevator and then mom,
Mr. Bumblebee, and I ran to
get into the cars and get to sunset. We made great timing but you still beat us
there. We couldn’t go in right away and so we waited until you were set up. We
finally got in to see you around 1am. We got B and Travis sent home and
I sat with mom while
Mr. Bumblebee went to get the jeep and bring it to sunset. We just
watched you and it was very quiet.
Mr. Bumblebee came and got me and we went home around
2am. I don’t think any of us slept that night.
Nov. 15th, 2011
It was your first full day at Kaiser – Sunset. We were there
bright and early. You were still asleep but we would see you move and get
scared from time to time with the tube down your throat. We panicked and would
get someone to come give you more sleeping medication. They also found that you
had pneumonia which means you had a lung infection and wouldn’t be able to be
on the transplant list until it was clear, at least 8 days. It scared us to
have to wait so long, but we knew it was for the best. We wanted you in tip top
shape before you went into surgery. Grandma met us at the hospital and we took
you home to SCV. We came back and we were there till late. A lot of family that
didn’t make it the previous night at Panorama were visiting you again at
Sunset. Around 11:30pm at night we got the call in that they were moving you to
UCLA. We were thrilled. Our prayers had been answered. As they loaded you up
and got you ready for your third ambulance ride, we got in the car to be ready
for you when you got to UCLA.
Mr. Bumblebee and Mom were in the Jeep and I was in my car
following behind. As faith would have
it, your ambulance pulled up right next to us while we were waiting at a light.
I saw
Mr. Bumblebee point over into your ambulance where I could see you. It was funny
for a split second when we saw all of the paramedics stand up and start working
on you, the lights of the ambulance turned on and it took off through the red
light. I was panicked. The ambulance went straight and our directions told us
to turn left. So we waited until our light turned green and then Mr. Bumblebee stepped
on the pedal. I stayed as close behind as I could. We were going as fast as we
could and through one light Mr. Bumblebee floored it through a yellow. I stepped on it
to follow, when I heard an ambulance. Just as I was going through the yellow,
your ambulance almost hit me as it was going through the intersection perpendicular
to my car. We both came to a stop and I screamed and floored it again. I pulled
over to the side of the road and your ambulance passed us. I screamed as loud
as I could and cried. I thought I might have taken the few seconds you needed
of your life. I had a bazillion pounds of guilt on my shoulders. But in that
second your ambulance passed by,
Mr. Bumblebee was already speeding down the streets to
get to the hospital. I followed behind. We pulled up to the hospital.
Mr. Bumblebee dropped Mom off and she ran inside to find out where you were and what your
status was. I followed Mr. Bumblebee and we parked and ran into the hospital. Of course
we weren’t allowed to see you while they set you up. But the nurses immediately
took us aside and gave us so much support. Finally we were told you were stable
and that your blood pressure had dropped dramatically, but you were ok. We
would finally be let in to see you. The IC Transplant Unit was so much more
intense. Your room looked daunting with all new kinds of machines around you.
It looked like at any moment it would be ready to perform surgery. The doctors
were thorough. They were asking us all kinds of questions, even about your
finger when you broke it when you were a kid. They asked about your mental
psych and overall disposition. They wanted to know about your personality, what
your favorite things to do were. At this point it was almost 3am. Only one
person could sleep in your room and so
Mr. Bumblebee and I headed home again.
Nov. 16, 2011 – Nov. 23, 2011
You slept. First it was clear you were fighting a lung
infection and that it would be a huge hurdle for you, but they expected that
you would be able to fight it. Also, your kidneys were shutting down almost
completely so they started you on dialysis. We also found out that your
pancreatitis had not healed and was still active. That was going to be your
biggest hurdle. We needed that pancreatitis to stop necrotizing so you could be
placed on the transplant list. At one point it was determined that you needed
to come out of your medicine induced sleep. They were worried about your brain activity.
However when they took you off the medication, you weren’t waking up fully and
so it got very scary. However, one day
Mr. Bumblebee, Mom, and I were standing around
your bed talking to you. We kept asking you to squeeze mom’s hand if you
understood. And like the sign of hope we’d been praying for, you squeezed mom’s
hand. We cried out of happiness.
I was out to dinner on Nov. 23, 2011 with my besties, they
were trying to get me out, when my mom called me. She told me you had started
to wake up and show signs of understanding. I was thrilled! We got a good night’s
rest and came straight to the hospital the next morning.
Nov. 24th, 2011
It was a miracle. We walked into the ICU and down the hall
on thanksgiving morning. We turned the corner where we could see into your room
and like a beacon of hope, we saw you sitting up and you waved to us. You were
still intubated but my God you were a sight for sore eyes. I knew then, you
were going to be okay.
Nov. 25th-Dec 4th, 2011
I spent all of my free time at the hospital with you. We had
some ups and downs, mostly with your leg. You had fallen at Panorama and the
leg was bothering you quite a bit, but it was the least of our concerns. You
finally got your tube out and were talking just like my daddy always did.
Cracking jokes and making friends with all the nurses. On December 4th,
I was going out for my best friend’s birthday. We ended up our night at Diddy
Reeses and so we came back to the hospital at midnight to say one last goodbye
to you.
Mr. Bumblebee fell asleep in the chair, mom was asleep in her little bed and you
and I stayed up till really late just talking. You played with my hair and we
just chatted. Finally the nurse kicked me out.
Dec 6th, 2011
We got news that you were going to probably put onto the
transplant list. Your pancreases showed signs of stopping, not necessarily
healing. However the doctors felt like they could not wait any longer. We did a
few tests throughout the day and by that night you were listed! We knew you
were going to be getting a liver very soon and our prayers were answered. We
all slept so well that night but anxious to get that liver to you!
Dec 11th, 2011
We have waited and waited. A liver hasn’t come up yet but we
didn’t give up hope. However we got some horrible news. Your pancreas was
rooting inside of you. You had developed sepsis and they were putting you on
hold on the list instead. We are devastated. The doctors seemed vauge. But our
hopes are high. We know you are going to get better.
Dec. 12, 2011
The doctors told us there was nothing they could do. You
were off the list and we had a new goal, to keep you comfortable. I refuse to
give up hope Dad. I refuse to accept this. You are a fighter and I know you
will overcome this.
Dec. 13, 2011
You were in good spirits in the morning, you told the
doctors not to give up hope on you. But later in the day things got worse, you
asked me to let you go. You told me you were tired. That you didn’t feel good.
You told me to remember I’m a Madrigal and never forget that. You wanted to
make sure I took my future children to Disneyland and to make sure what was
important to you still always important to me. You played with my hair again
and mom, B, and I cried.
Dec. 14, 2011
You told me you were still praying for a miracle. That you
wanted one and I promised you would get one.
Dec. 15, 2011
We joked around for a little bit. But you were telling mom
you felt sick on the inside. I don’t know what to feel anymore. But we could
see you were getting weaker and more tired. You had rough nights, with your
blood pressure.
Dec. 16, 2011
We came into the hospital,
Mr. Bumblebee, my sister, and I. We said
good morning to you and talked to mom. Last night was a horrible night. Mom
warned us. You asked to speak with Mom. You told her “I should be dead” and my
mom told you “But you are doing such a good job fighting babe” and you said you
wanted it to be over. You told her it was time and you wanted it to be over.
You started to shout it like we couldn’t do it fast enough. We started comfort
care and did as you asked us. We turned off your blood pressure medication drip
and the dialysis. You drifted off to sleep as we all held your hand. It was
quiet. About 30 minutes later, Nadine came in and told us she was so sorry for
our loss. My world shattered into a billion pieces and I have never been the
same. I miss you dad.